The Quickest Path to Healing
There are few things in life that feel as good as someone thanking
you for helping them.
Recently I spoke at a music teachers conference about the effects
of tinnitus in a life in music. In fact, as I write this, I'm on
a plane over the mid-west United States on my way home from that
The third morning of my stay I was having breakfast on the patio
of the hotel restaurant. As I started eating, I spotted a lady coming
towards me with what can only be described as focused determination.
She had heard about my seminar the previous day from some friends
of hers and had spent all afternoon evening and morning trying to
track me down.
She was very excited and breathing rapidly when she came right
up to me and said, "Paul, I'm so happy I finally found you."
She went on to say how sorry she was that she missed the seminar
but how grateful she felt to actually speak to me in private. I've
had this happen to me many times before so I knew I was about to
do some serious soul work.
I invited her to sit down while I finished eating and tell me her
story. I was anticipating a sad story because, hardly anyone who
tracks me down wants to tell me how great their life is. Anyway,
as I suspected she was in turmoil. She was losing her sight due
to a rare disease and wanted to get my advice on how to cure it.
I explained that I have no experience in healing ailments such
as this and that I was not a licensed doctor or miracle healer.
She understood that but still wanted to know what I would suggest
for her particular situation.
So, after listening intently to her story and the intricate details
of how she felt she had arrived at this point in her life, I started
with the same question I ask everyone. "What is it that you
She replied quickly with the answer I fully expected, "I don't
want to lose my sight."
And, just as I do when I coach tinnitus patients I shot back, "I
didn't ask you want you don't want, I asked you what you do want."
"What's the difference?" she asked.
"There's a big difference," I said. "In fact, knowing
what you don't want and focusing on what you don't want is a certain
recipe for blindness." I could see by the look on her face
that she did not really see how this was possible.
But, as I've stated many times before, focusing on a problem and
trying to fix it, with the same mind that created the problem, will
not work, ever!
Over the next hour and a half I did my very best to give her the
benefit of my experience. We talked about the law of attraction
and how the mind wants to habitually focus on problems. I also suggested
that she share with me something that she doesn't have in her life
right now but has always wanted to have. In other words I asked,
"Is there something you would like to do with your life that
you've always wanted to do?"
She lit up like a Christmas tree. "I've always wanted to make
furniture!" So I asked her, "why did you choose to be
a music teacher?" "Because," she said, "I was
good at it and it pays the bills so that's what I've always done."
"You know," I said, "the vast majority of people
don't know what they want in life so they settle for whatever comes
Throughout our time together I truly tried my best to be a beacon
and get her headed in the right direction. I asked her to pursue
her dream of becoming a furniture maker and to stop focusing on
"not going blind." Even, if she does eventually go blind
I know in my heart that if she pursues her goal she will have a
full life, regardless of the circumstances that surround her situation.
This is good advice. If you are not willing to go after what it
is you want in life you will never truly be happy, period. We all
have a purpose and it's up to each of us to listen to our hearts
and follow that purpose. Anything less is less than good enough
and is a sure recipe for perpetual unhappiness.
As she thanked me for our time together I could tell that she was
truly touched by my words. She had a smile on her face that was
nothing short of joyous. I felt so good to have helped her. And,
because I know and live the law of attraction I knew that I would
be rewarded somehow, that's just the way it works. I don't expect
it, I just know it.
The next day, I checked into a 5 star resort and a 3 room palatial
hacienda for only $99 a night. A colleague had set it up and for
the next 2 days I lived in the lap of luxury. Is it luck? I think
There is one sure way of getting more of what you want in life
and that's to help others get what they want.
The author, Paul Tobey, has a number of eBooks, audio seminars
and articles on how to deal with Tinnitus. His own journey with
tinnitus has taken
him around the world to share his story and healing concepts with
others. If you have ringing
in the ears please check out his tinnitus