Tinnitus - Sleeping With
One of the most common questions I get from readers
is; how does one fall asleep with tinnitus? One woman recently wrote,
“I have a very hard time falling asleep with tinnitus. I can't
because the tinnitus is so loud that it kind of hypnotizes me. I
can't help not focusing on it and when I sleep it’s a very
light sleep, a sort of trance, it’s not deep sleep. So I wake
up very tired. Do you have suggestions for improving sleep?”
I certainly have plenty of experience in how to achieve a good
night’s sleep. However, because everyone perceives their tinnitus
differently some may suffer greatly from lack of sleep while others
may not suffer at all.
In the beginning my tinnitus was pretty severe and sleep was something
that I didn’t look forward to at all. In fact, I can remember
many times when just going near the bedroom caused major feelings
of anxiety. The anticipation of another night restless tinnitus
sleep was almost as painful as experiencing the insomnia. The bedroom
was place of pain, frustration and all sorts of negative emotions.
It was like a war zone and the enemy was tinnitus.
To get over this problem I had to learn how to reclaim my bedroom.
I had to learn how to make the bedroom a “safe zone”
instead of the “war zone”. The simply act of making
it a ‘safe’ zone greatly reduced my anticipation of
pain, my anticipation of no sleep, and my resistance to the tinnitus.
And, with time, my bedroom grew into a place where I now find peace,
tranquility, freedom, love and pleasure.
In my Tinnitus seminars, I tell people that the bedroom needs to
be a “safe” zone. Because, it's much easier to fall
asleep when you walk into a space where you feel safe, valuable
and loved. When you safe, valuable and loved you feel happy. Therefore,
you must make your bedroom a very happy place.
The bedroom must not have a TV and it must be smoke free. It must
be a room where you will not allow your mind to worry or stress.
There is absolutely no fighting in this room. No anger must enter
it. Make it clutter free, and spacious. If you must, clean your
closets, your dresser and recycle anything that you don’t
use or haven’t worn in 12 months.
Invest in your happy zone. Paint it a good energy color. Try choosing
a color that reflects something soothing, welcoming and warm. Make
it your king/goddess room, where you feel great. The whole idea
is that when you walk into your bedroom, you FEEL happy.
Invest in placing happy books, framed pictures of happy moments,
or you could even place pictures of things you desire in your life
around the room. The idea is to focus your mind on only happy thoughts.
Happy thoughts and feelings is really the key to making this a
welcoming safe haven for you.
Make it a place that you look forward to. If you have to, invest
in satin sheets, a luxury blanket, comfy or sexy clothes best suited
to what your heart desires. You could also start some new traditions
or rituals. For example, place one dark chocolate on the pillow,
or enjoy the perfect tea. Whatever or however you use your creativity
to create your "happy" reality, make it the one place
in the house that brings your energy vibration closest to your true
In addition to creating a great space, you should also avoid taking
sleeping pills or anti-depressants as they are very addictive. If
you have to take anything, try Gravol or other kinds of motion sickness
pills. They work just as well as sleeping pills and are non-addictive.
However, please consult your doctor before trying any over the counter
For me, the greatest results came from learning how to focus on
what I want rather than what I don't want. For example; when you
try to sleep and your mind continues to focus on not wanting tinnitus,
then you are still focusing on what you don't want and your tinnitus
will bother you more.
Instead, focus on what you do want and say things to yourself like,
"I desire to attract all things that bring happiness into my
life". Focusing on what you desire will continue to expand
in your mind and will put you in a much happier state. And, when
you fall asleep happier, you will inevitably sleep better and far
Paul Tobey is a professional motivational speaker who has performed many seminars for ringing ears sufferers and is author of Tinnitus Free Living a Tinnitus Handbook Self Help Guide which helps people reduce their tinnitus volume.