Tinnitus and the "Either Or" Thinking

by Paul Tobey

In the world we live in most people think “either or.” For example; do you want to be successful or do you want a healthy family life? Most people would think one or the other. They think it takes too much time and effort to be successful and therefore their family life would suffer. But, the fact is; you can have both.

Rich people know they can have both. They think they can have their cake and eat it too! Middle class people believe they can have cake but only a small piece and they’ll end up paying for it later. Poor people buy a donut focus on the hole and wonder why they’re perpetually broke.

Now, I’m not trying to pick on any one demographic and this is certainly not a slight against poor people. All I’m trying to state is that it is possible to have everything you want without compromise. It’s all a matter of how your thought processes work.

If you think it takes a lot of work to be successful, it does, but only for a short time. Eventually you will have built a successful business that works for you instead of you working for it. That’s why it’s possible to be successful and have a healthy family life.

The same goes for tinnitus. Most people would think they can only scrape by in life if they have tinnitus and that tinnitus keeps them from doing the things they want to do. This is in fact complete nonsense. Tinnitus does not keep you from doing what you want. You do!

You can have both. You can have tinnitus and still get everything you want in life. All you have to do is focus entirely on getting what it is you really want and do something about it. Of course, if you sit around all day thinking about being successful nothing will ever happen.

Based on my experience all the positive thinking in the world will not get you what you want. You have to do something about it! You have to start creating your reality. You have to get out there; learn, practice and get messy. Is it uncomfortable to do this? Most definitely! In fact being comfortable won’t get you anywhere. You have to step outside your comfort zone to be successful.

And, while you are focused on getting what you want out of life you can still have tinnitus. The thing is though; the tinnitus won’t bother you because you’ll be so focused on what you really want you don’t have time to think about it. And, like I always say, “if you’re not thinking about it, it doesn’t really exist.”

You can have tinnitus and get what you want out of life. It’s a choice. If you think “either or” you will be stuck there forever. You can have both. But, the interesting part is, you won’t really suffer the symptoms of tinnitus if you’re doing what you love. Therefore, it’s not really both, is it?


Paul Tobey is a professional motivational speaker who has performed many seminars for ringing ears sufferers and is author of Tinnitus Free Living a Tinnitus Handbook Self Help Guide which helps people reduce their tinnitus volume.

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