Be Grateful
and More Will Come
by Paul
Tobey One of the most powerful feelings that you can
have and one that will bring you more of what you want is being
“grateful.”
The biggest problem that we have as humans, especially in Western
Society, is that we always have our minds set on something more
that we can get. Why? Because we think that it will make us happy.
That is our main goal isn’t it? To be happy?
So, why then do we struggle, fight, complain and frustrate ourselves
to no end trying hard to get what we want in an effort to make ourselves
more happy? Because, it’s part of the way we’ve been
programmed.
Unfortunately this is a recipe for disaster. There is proof stacked
upon proof that struggling and fighting to get what you want never
works. Yet, we continue to do so.
The opposite of struggling to get what you want is to be grateful
for what you already have, regardless of how little you think you
have. Did you know that if you earn more than $2,750 a year that
you have more wealth than 85% of the population of the planet. And,
if you earn more than $27,500 a year you are in the top 10% wage
earners in the entire world.
So, do you have something to be grateful for? You bet! So, why
aren’t you grateful? Because you believe there is something
better than what you already have. There may be. But, focusing on
what you don’t have won’t get you there. Being grateful
will.
In a recent seminar I had a lady come up to me at the end and tell
me that she loved the course and would like to take my more advanced
course but didn’t have the money. I asked why she didn’t
have it and of course the response was because of circumstances
beyond her control. Naturally.
Well, nothing is beyond her control, and whether she realizes it
or not, she is the cause of every negative circumstance in her entire
life including being broke. I’m not saying that she attracted
it knowingly but rather through a belief system which included not
wanting to be wealthy.
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make and what I told her
was this…
If I could sell you a piece of property in the nicest part of town
(in this case I made reference to Rosedale in Toronto) and I could
sell it to you for $3,000 would you buy it? “Of course,”
she quickly replied. And I said, “But, you just told me you
didn’t have any money.”
“Oh, but I could find $3,000 to buy a house,” she said.
I replied tersely, “Then why wouldn’t you spend $3,000
on learning something that could change the course of your life
and your financial situation so that you could buy a real house
in Rosedale?”
We tend to make up so many excuses for not having what we want
instead of going after it. And, the first part of this is being
grateful for what you already have. This particular lady was so
focused on her lack of money that she completely negated everything
that she does have in her life. That negative attraction is so powerful
that no matter how hard she fights or resists her current situation
it won’t get better.
So, how do you become grateful for what you already have? By taking
a few moments each and every day to think about where you’ve
been and how far you’ve come. Looking back at the way your
life used to be instead of looking forward is a sure fire way to
be grateful.
If you’re always looking forward you’ll never get there.
It’s like trying to walk to the horizon, it will always keep
moving further and further away from you.
Take a moment right now and think about the person you used to
be and what you used to have. Were you angrier, more frustrated,
more broke, less happy? Now look how far you’ve come and feel
good about it. The stronger the feeling the more grateful you are
and the more energy you’ll put out.
I’m sure that you can find all kinds of evidence to prove
to yourself that you don’t have much. So stop trying to find
it. Search for evidence of abundance and you will find it and more.
Paul Tobey is a professional motivational speaker who has performed many seminars for ringing ears sufferers and is author of Tinnitus Free Living a Tinnitus Handbook Self Help Guide which helps people reduce their tinnitus volume. |