Let Go and Let
As I sit here at Newark airport waiting for my
connecting flight to Phoenix I have about half an hour to put some
thoughts together about creating a tinnitus free life.
I want to start by asking you a question. What happens if you can
never rid yourself of the ringing? I’m serious. Think about
it for a minute. If the ringing never leaves your head what will
you do? How will your life change? How will it stay the same?
The fact is, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news, for many
people tinnitus is a fact of life. So, no matter how much you want
it to go away it may never do so. Let’s just assume for a
minute that it doesn’t do away. It will always be with you.
Well, I’d like to let you in on what I believe to be the
secret to life. “Let go and let it happen.” That’s
right, just act as if tinnitus is here to stay, in other words;
I’ve talked about acceptance before so I’m not going
to use this time to go into again. For now, I want to talk about
what happens after acceptance.
I think the next step after acceptance is “doing.”
Doing ‘what’ you ask? Anything! The key to life is to
figure out what it is you really want to do, follow your inner promptings
and most of all; stop trying to figure out how you will get it.
Just act upon the opportunities that come your way, detach yourself
from the outcome and you’ll get there.
You see, we’ve been taught to need things. And, need will
always keep you from what you want. Need denotes lack of something
and that’s a negative focus. Therefore, if you keep needing
to achieve, buy something, be somewhere, be someone, cure your tinnitus
etc. it will always elude you.
A better way to attract what you want is to go to the feeling that
you would have if you had what you want. Let’s take tinnitus
for example. Think for a moment what it would be like to be tinnitus
free? Go to the feeling. Feeling is energy. The closer you can connect
with the energy behind getting what you want to faster you will
Now, I know I just told you to accept tinnitus so what am I doing
trying to get you to feel what it would be like to not have tinnitus?
Because, this method works for manifesting anything you want not
just tinnitus. So if tinnitus doesn’t leave you, try to get
something else that you want. Then once you get that, you’ll
have proof that it works and you’ll be another step closer
to believing that you can cure your tinnitus.
Let me explain with a quick example of how this works.
Recently I was starting to have lower attendance in my seminars.
So, in an effort to boost attendance I decided to run an ad in a
local newspaper. I’ve never had much faith in newspaper ads
but decided that I had to do something. It as going to cost a lot
of money and is a risk so I just said to myself, “I have to
do it” and I did.
What happened? Nothing. Only 2 people signed up to the course as
a result of the ad, hardly worth the 4 figures that I paid for it.
But, the reason it didn’t work was because of my lack of faith.
As I said earlier I have little faith in newspaper advertising and
therefore my thoughts became reality.
On the other hand, I was detached from the outcome which means;
I put my attention on getting what I wanted (higher attendance)
but, I was not counting on the ad to do that. That meant my focus
was on getting more people and not on an advertisement that may
or may not have worked.
So what happened? The same day I put the ad in the newspaper, I
got a call from someone who had been in my seminars before. He had
built quite a targeted contact list of business people over the
years and wanted to know if he could market my seminar to his people
in exchange for a commission on the back-end. I agreed.
As a result, I had one of the best attended seminars in recent
months. Of the 85 people that came, 75% of them came from his list.
All because I didn’t focus on what might not have worked and
put my attention on getting the result.
I pictured in my heart the feeling I would have as a I stepped
out in front of an audience and enthusiastically engaged them. Then
when the time came to do the seminar I did just that, I followed
through on the feeling and I had a great time doing it, not to mention
earning 5 figures in 8 hours. Not bad for focusing my intention
on the result instead of trying to figure out exactly how I was
going to fill the room.
So, whatever it is that you want to achieve, do, be or have, focus
on the feeling that you will have when you get it. The higher the
energy that you feel, the closer you will draw it to you. The law
of attraction is a powerful force in the universe, so powerful that
you can manipulate reality and bend it to your will.
But remember, focus only on what you want, feel what it would be
like to get it, then detach from the outcome and let it come to
you! Works every time!
Paul Tobey is a professional motivational speaker who has performed many seminars for ringing ears sufferers and is author of Tinnitus Free Living a Tinnitus Handbook Self Help Guide which helps people reduce their tinnitus volume.